Moved
Posted: Mon 4 October, 2010 Filed under: Domestic 24 Comments »A quiet weekend here at D4D reflected a pretty mad one in Reality.
To cut a very long story short, Herself and I are splitting up, so it’s all been about finding a new place, doing all the paperwork, and moving in.
Broadband arrives today, Sky tomorrow. (No normal aerial on the house, so Sky ’tis)
Lots of other stuff still to do, but there’s a house, at least. From there, who knows?
Good for you……. but how about you come and clear up your crap in Norfolk!
đ Sorry to hear that, about the split I mean.
Hope new house brings you lots of fun and happiness.
On a lighter note I do have visions of you and Gordon, in your new freed state, going beering and scaring the population at large! God help us all đ
Sorry to hear about the split
Are you taking psycho cat?
ps I think I might know the answer to this one
Havent commented for a while, but follow you every day.
Sorry to hear your news, hope everything works out for everyone.
Well done for having the courage to face up to this one. Hope it all works out as you’d both like.
If the hens need a good new home, you know where I am đ
You’re having a laugh…. This man wouldn’t know what courage was if it bit him on the arse. Wonder how long this comment will stay up for? Cause “lyle” don’t do free speech… Unless it’s his!!
As I said before I was deleted……. wouldn’t know courage if it bit him on the arse!
Facing up to a failing relationship and actually leaving the shared home (no matter the terms) is more courageous than posting comments anonymously, I’d say….
But, I like people with strong opinions, and while Lyle and I sometimes disagree, we still respect each other. Us people with strong opinions just need to be understood, and handled with strong compassion. Weak people rarely stay the course with us.
sorry blue witch but its not me posting.
herself
Blue witch…. for your info my very first post wasnt anon, but you cant see that ’cause it’s been deleted. Second (also deleted, but back again) post directed straight at “lyle” with compassion for herself ! And “lyle” knows who I am i dont need to broadcast it, I have no respect for him. The weak people are those who hide behind blogs and social networking sites rather than pull their heads out of the sand and sort things out face to face. Strong opinions count for nothing it actions that matter.
Oh gawd, what have I started? I did see the first anon comment, last night, actually, but thought it best to ignore it.
One thing I’ve learnt about relationship split ups, both through observing friends, working professionally, and going through them myself (albeit the last nearly 20 years ago – I finally found the man who could cope with/nurture me, just when I’d given up looking!), is that there are always two sides, and that the only people who can sort it out are the couple involved.
My view is that others can (and should) be supportive without taking sides, or apportioning blame, or becoming directly involved/attacking. Blame does nothing but cause bad feeling, which just inevitably leads to long-term damage.
Hence why, in my original comment, I said, “Hope it all works out as youâd both like.”
I watched the very public disintegration of a relationship for another blog-relationship 5 years ago, and all the side-taking that went on led to the splitting up of real-life friendships, which was very sad, and unnecessary. My view then was that, had others not stirred, it wouldn’t have ended as it did.
That is just an observation, which seemed relevant here.
Now, what I need to know is, are Gordon and Lyle running off together? đ
(just trying to lighten things up there…)
Trouble is those who decide to live their lives in the public domain on bloggs and social networking sites allow for sides to be taken. Writing about your personal life by default involves others who have no say, and have not given permsiion to have their lives broadcast in this way. But heaven forbid if they should dare to comment, cause thats seen as stiring it. If “Lyle” had any sense of decency, compassion or courage he’d delete the whole post and get on with his life without causing further hurt to those he leaves behind clearing up!
Eh? Is there something somewhere I’ve missed?
I thought that this was the most understated announcement of a new start for two people that I’ve ever seen! Nothing more on Lyle’s Twitter either. Can’t comment on what might be on FB as I don’t have any interest in it or access to it.
And Lyle very rarely blogs about anyone in his life – except for people who park badly in supermarket car parks… and they, IMHO, are fair game…
I do understand your being protective towards your sister Anon, but I’m not sure you’re achieving anything. Maybe she has an opinion on whether your supporting her in this way is helpful?
Yep you’re missing a hell of a lot !
“Lyle” your opinion matters not to me. But if you think I’m hiding behind your blog then pop round and we’lldiscuss face to face. See you soon x
What a shame,
I also have never noticed “Lyle” talk about his relationship with herself, other than factual. i.e. “Herself is away this weekend”.
“The weak people are those who hide behind blogs and social networking sites rather than pull their heads out of the sand and sort things out face to face. Strong opinions count for nothing it actions that matter.” … Not something Ive ever noticed on this blogto be honest, but cant comment on other mediums.
Oh, and by the way..
Surely a personal blog should be that.. A place to write what you think and share your thoughts if you so wish. If “Lyle” wants to be all about him, then so be it.
If you dont like what he says.. then just Click the “back” button or turn off.
Its your choice to read what he writes, and if you choose to read it and dont like it then…
Tough titty
“Woob woob woob woob”.
Lyle knows what I mean.
I must be reading a different blog to Chris? I agree a personal blog is just that but this isnât always one… on occasions it gives more than just thoughts and opinions. It’s also a diary that sometimes involves the lives of other people and reporting of sensitive situations that are not of public concern⌠if it doesnât then I wouldnât be commenting on this post at all! There are people reading this blog (and many do not make comment) who know who “Lyle” is, know who “herself” is and her family and friends. Indeed yesterday, âLyleâ in his fury even revealed my name. I have had certain parts of my life told which involve situations that âLyleâ has participated in by default as family member. My request to remove these posts has met with the usual distain, but I have a right not to have mine, my family or friends lives blogged without our agreement, regardless of how big or small the issues are deemed to be by the blogger. I care not much for the opinions of others on this blog, they are entitled to them and I often click the back button. Sometimes it makes for humorous reading and no-one gets hurt in the process, but I am concerned with ensuring that the lives of those I care about are protected. I donât understand why thatâs an issue for others who participate in this blog.
Herselfs sister..
This post I agree with. Yes you do have he right to request certain posts to be removed, and “Lyle” should remove if requested.
(I do recall one being removed in the last 12 months about a dinner at somebodys request).
I appreciate that it may seem personal to you at times, but to somebody who doesnt know “Lyle” (although I do know his real name) and his friends and family I can quite honestly state that over the years he hasnt given much away as regards to peoples real identitys.
As I said earlier, I hope everything works out for everybody.
Amen to that comment Chris
And I agree too, for what it’s worth. Hence why the reply with the name of Herself’s Sister has been pulled. (The other one about the dinner was removed at the request of the same person, it’s worth pointing out)
What Herself’s Sister – and anyone else – don’t have the right to is expecting to be able to bite my head off without me having the ability to respond.
i have not really commented on this lovely debate as yet but here goes.
Chris you are right it is a personal blog and he does have the right to say what he likes however it works both ways.
When you write stuff on it about the end of a relationship (and on twitter and facebook) without any consideration about how the person you have left might feel about it then you have to expect a few people, who can see how upset the other person is about it, to get annoyed. Bear in mind that we have a lot of joint friends and family who read these forums as well and just because lyle might be ready to tell the world about the split less than a week after moving out does not mean that i am in the same place and it is insensitive. its not about how he has said things in the past but the fact that he has said something about this one at all.
I totally agree with your point of view, however I never see the twitter or the facebook aspect of this blog. For me this is a totally anonymous blog of which I dont know any of the people or persons involved; and it is on that basis that I post my comments.